I have been experiencing some challenges communicating with a close friend recently. Challenges which arise from the crossing of personal boundaries. Boundary setting is not something I am strong at unfortunately; I have worked hard in recent years to learn to vocalize and protect my own boundaries because I’m a people pleaser and I hate letting anyone down. But I do understand the importance of boundaries to protect my own wellbeing, and have come to realize no one will automatically recognize or respect my boundaries, rather it is up to me to assert them. Ouch. Continue reading
Relationships
Romances and escalators
I’ve been thinking about relationships recently. Shocker. Someone said to me in passing that all their previous relationships had ‘failed’. I asked what they meant by failed; what constitutes a failure as far as relationships go? He said that they had all ended and therefore none of them had succeeded. Continue reading
The truth…in small doses
I have never been particularly interested in blogging about films I’ve seen, or interesting anecdotes about my day, or travel, or food, or anything marginally trendy. I’ve only ever been drawn to write about deeply personal things, feelings, and experiences. Which is why there are often long gaps between my posts, because sometimes it’s impossible to do that without sharing something intimate or private that also affects someone else who might not want to share so openly. Continue reading
Relationship labels and imaginary boxes
Yes I know, ‘boxes’. Snigger. Insert smut pun here. Innuendo aside, I have recently found myself thinking about labels. Relationship labels in particular. Continue reading
Come as you are
Have you ever experienced an instance where you kind of already know something, but then someone else comes along and says it and you suddenly believe it? That. Continue reading
Men are from Mars, women are from 1950?
I consider myself to be a relatively emotionally mature woman. Open minded, considerate, hopefully intelligent….and yet I seem to have been rather naive on the old feminism front. Continue reading
