Learning not to be your own glass ceiling

At the end of 2020, I made a big leap of faith and left my stable job. In the middle of a global pandemic. While the job market and economy are highly questionable. And you know what, I don’t regret it.

There were parts of my work I loved, especially my team. They are amazing people and many of them remain friends. Quitting was a tough decision that took me a good 18 months to make, because I knew I was lucky to work with great people and have stability when many others don’t. But that’s just the thing, sometimes we are just a bit *too* humble and grateful, to the point that we hold ourselves back from making changes.

While there were lots of good things about my working life, there were many that didn’t suit me. And the truth is, I felt for a long time that there was something else I should be doing. When we have those kinds of scary feelings that simmer away under the surface, it’s easy to push them down and rationalise why we should stay where we are, whether that’s in a job, a relationship, or other life situation. We don’t want to be ungrateful. We don’t want to take too big of a risk. We don’t believe we will succeed. We don’t want to upset someone else. But while those reservations might protect us from failure, they also act as a glass ceiling keeping us from our potential.

There are some things in life I want but don’t yet have, like a family and home of my own. But not having them actually served me well in this instance, because their absence meant I was free to give up stability in order to pursue something better. It was like my silver lining. That’s not to say I was able to recklessly throw in the towel and walk away on a whim. I had to work hard and save for a long time to create a financial buffer to lean on. Having responsibilities in life can add a layer of complication to making big changes, but it shouldn’t act as a complete barrier. Mindset really is the key to changing your life.

When we get into the mindset of blockage or failure—I can’t afford it, it’s not realistic, it’s not achievable—we create a paradigm through which we see our circumstances, and we take that paradigm as hard fact. But actually, it is a belief system and it can be dismantled. It doesn’t mean that our obligations will evaporate overnight, but mindset is the foundation on which we can build a new belief system that will send us in a different direction. It’s a journey, and if we are open we may well find solutions and opportunities we might otherwise have missed.

I’m yet to strike it rich and only at the beginning of my new path, but I am the happiest I have been in a long time. I have taken on so many creative projects because I’m full of ideas and energy. In fact, sometimes I’m so excited I start multiple things at once without giving myself the bandwidth to finish them! But it’s a lot of fun and amazing to feel this enthused with what I am doing. I have no more doubt that I made the right decision.

My mindset didn’t shift immediately. It took some time, rest, and inner work before I really started to feel aligned with my true potential. Now that I’m on that path, I can honestly say I wish I had made this leap years ago.

So if there is something in your heart that you want to do, don’t hold yourself back or put blockers in your own way. You don’t need to figure out exactly how you will achieve the entire thing right away, you need only start with shifting your mindset to believe it is possible. There will be solutions and opportunities out there if you are open to finding them.